Welcome to Car Talk. This is not talking about cars. This is talking inside of a car. Today’s topic is about dealing with anger. This topic is on my mind because I live in the St. Louis area, and anybody that sees any of the nationwide or St. Louis news knows that there’s been a lot of protests again in the St. Louis area because there was a cop that shot a black man, and I’ll not get in too much in the legal stuff, but he was not guilty of murder, and people thought he should’ve been guilty of murder. A white cop, black man. Unfortunately, same story, different day. I don’t want to get too much into the politics of that. Right or wrong, it happened, and if that person deserved it or not, I don’t think anybody is really ever gonna know, but what we do know is that people are angry about the result. People are angry that things are happening like this, and they want change, and I can empathize with that. I am not black. I am not a woman. I am not Asian. I am not trans. I am not so many things.
I am a white male in America, so yes, I know that frames things differently for me. At the same time, I can see what people see, but I also don’t see what they see. They always say walk a mile in someone’s shoes to understand where they’re coming from. I can’t do that. I’m not any of those things. However, at times, I have been angry or felt mistreated in life. It always made sense to me to think let’s take action against the people at fault for this. So if you’re upset with police shootings, that’s a fair thing to be upset with no matter what your race, age, demographic is. If you’re upset with police shootings, to me, it doesn’t make sense why you would vandalize buildings and break windows on glass and stuff like that. I don’t know why. I don’t know why. It doesn’t make any sense to me. I think differently. If you want to be mad at the police, do I condone police violence or breaking windows at police stations or attacking police, no, but if someone did, at least I could say that’s what they’re mad at. They’re mad at the police so taking action against the police. Okay, fair. I don’t understand taking action when you’re angry at things that the action is not any of the areas you’re taking action at.
Like, if I get mad at this tree on the side of the road, oh, I’m gonna go punch that guy in the face. It doesn’t really have any impact on the event at hand, so if you’re angry about something, I have to say it only makes sense to take action At those or what you are angry at and not people or objects that have nothing to do with it. I just don’t get it. So if you’re mad at a group of people, yes, racism exists. It’s unfortunate. I think it’s horrible. I think we are all human beings, and why can’t we just treat each other with respect? Confusing to me how we could think any otherwise. People do, which is wrong.
At the same time, I have to think that people do get angry, and I don’t know how it makes sense to them to attack a news reporter or to punch somebody in the face or try to knock someone down that has nothing to do with it. This has felt kind of like a rant today, and it’s kind of all over the place, and it’s okay to get angry in life. There’s nothing wrong, in my opinion, with getting angry. What I do think people need to do is at least direct their anger at that which is making them angry versus something else because if you’re upset with something, it can only make sense to take action on that thing to get results versus random anger at some random thing that has nothing to do with why you’re angry to begin with. In summary, this has been all over the place, kind of a rant, stuff on my mind in St. Louis area.
If you’re angry, and it’s okay to be angry, but if you’re angry, please, if you’re going to take action, at least make it towards those with whom you are angry and not people that have nothing to do with it. It doesn’t make any sense, violence in itself. I’ve never been in a fight in my life. I don’t understand violence really at all, but I can empathize with people getting upset and wanting to change things and being angry, and that happens, but make sure the anger is at least directed at people that are the problem and not people that aren’t the problem. Love one another. Be nice to one another. Be caring. Respect each other.
Realize that we are all different, and it’s okay to be different. We don’t have to be the same. We are all different. We all do stupid things. We all do funny things. Make fun of yourself. I realize some people are good at certain things. Is it the worst thing to assume that a certain race or group of people is good at something? Oh, Asians are good at math. It’s not the worst thing to think someone’s smart. Are black people better dancers than white people? I think on average they are, yes. That’s not offensive to think someone does that. White people can’t dance on average.
Am I offended by that, being a white person and people think white people can’t dance? No, I can laugh at that ’cause I can’t stand either. We just have to be able to love each other and realize we’re all different. Why can’t we just get along? Why can’t we just get along and realize that we’re different, embrace the differences, laugh at the differences, realize we’re different but we’re all human beings inside? So please stop being angry, but if you’re gonna be angry, at least take action where it makes sense to take action, not at some random person, some random business. At least direct your anger towards those whom are making you angry. It’s a serious rant, I know. Car Talk, Tyler Douthitt.